Tuesday, August 16, 2011




~Being careful and wise to the
takers, stealers,

and all the rest of the so called
wanna bees in your life.~


It seems that life never ceases to amaze me. Just when you get going along…POOF, someone or something comes along to knock you off your feet. You know these kind of people, the ones that think they know everything about you. Well, be careful of who you trust in life. Not everyone has your best interest at heart.

What is a taker? These are the people who constantly are asking for something from you. They truly want what you have. Most of the time, they are incapable of achieving their goals on their own. So, they seek out people who have things they want. For example, my husband and I have a neighbor that only comes over when he wants something and when it is to his advantage to be nice. Whether it be asking for money, food, or just about anything, he only acts like a friend when he feels like it. Most of the time, he will simply walk right on by us and not speak to us. I don’t know about you, but I don’t ever trust these kind of people in my life. For the most part, I distance myself from these types as quickly as possible. Sometimes, I have to put on my mean hat and simply just ignore them.

The stealers are not a football team. Well, they are, but in this respect I am talking about something totally different. The stealers, are those that only mission in life is to literally take what you have. They seek their prey carefully and the results can or will be devastating to all in their path. These type of people are the job taker awayers, home breakers, and liars in your life. Trusting or being friends with them is dang near impossible. If you talk about a new job you are interested in or are seeking, the next thing you know it…they will be at the job interview you are applying for and then more. They seek to take away your home life, break up your marriage by being the nice guy/gal with the big heart that truly understands what you are going through. They are also some of the biggest liars in your life. At first they appear to be some of the most trusting, loving, and caring people in life. Don’t be fooled, because their trust in just superficial and won’t last long. These type of people are truly the destroyers of many of lifestyles. They cannot be trusted and the only way to get rid of them is to literally throw them out of your life.

Appearances can be deceiving, so be careful of the wanna bees. They are literally like little working bees in your life. To the outside world they have everything, but once you get to know them, they are the self indulgent that feed off of you being in a lesser spot. They seek to gain your trust and friendship. They boast about having a lot of money, brag about their big houses, and always seem to have the best of everything. I am not talking about the truly wealthy, I am talking about the wanna bees. These people will go to no limit to out due you in every way possible. If you have something nice, they have to have something bigger and better. Once you get close to them, it doesn’t take very long to realize that all you trusted and thought about them is not really real at all. They live a life of a lie, always trying to be better and bigger than all of those around them. They are the least trustworthy of anyone you will ever meet. Their lives are simply a lie and who can trust a liar.

So, who can you trust in life? Well, the answer to that one is not always simple. In my life, I only trust those that I truly love and care about, my closes friends, and my family. It takes time for me to trust you and be close to you. Let’s just say I am careful and weigh all of the facts, feelings, and actions before I make any decision to completely let someone into my inner circle. I am not mean or snotty, as I do for people each and everyday of my life. I am just careful of who I let into my life. I have been a victim of all of those mentioned above. Enough is enough and I am no longer anyone’s bait. If you want me to trust you, then simply be yourself. Be real, be honest, be caring, and be loving…that is all it takes to be my friend. It doesn’t matter to me what you have in life. I will always wish you the best. Some of my best friends are those who have nothing at all. There friendships and trust mean the most to me.

When you look at your life, can you see the people mentioned above? If you can, then you might need to clean out your friends list. Take it from someone who truly knows what the betrayal of trust feels like….just go ahead and do it. Afterwards, you will find that you are a better person for removing all the untrustworthy people from your life. Trust is all you really have in life. If you can’t trust someone…then you can’t love them, can’t work with them, and certainly can’t be friends with them.

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

~George MacDonald~
This post was written for GBE2 Week #13-Trust


  1. “To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”
    That is a wonderful and true quote. Love it. Also feeling your pain and disappointment made me see that we all have those experiences to some extent and it is what we learn from them that forges who we become.
    You are obviously becoming a more complex and guarded human based on your history. One day someone will erase a good deal of that mistrust for you and you will be open to it. Right person, right time.

  2. Oh Mary--I've always had a keenness (<--- Is that a word) when it came to these sorts of people. For example--if I have a friend that always wants--but doesn't reciprocate--I don't set myself up for disappointment. I'll give them one maybe two shots then I write them off. I walk away and don't put up with the BS they are dishing. I don't instantly trust someone---but I'll try to get to know them before I make a call.

    That said--my inner circle is pretty tight. Long standing friendships that can't be broken over the little stuff.

    Well-I for one am glad we're friends :) Cheers, Jenn

  3. Thanks Jenn for your sweet comments. I am so glad that we are friends and I feel the same way you do.

  4. I think my inner circle is smaller and tighter than anybody else. It is my husband and I against the world. Seriously, all we have is each other. Friends come and friends go, but only our marriage is a constant.

  5. Amen Darlene!!! My husband is my best friend. We have been married for over 14 years and have seen our share of these types of people. We just don't have time for these types of people anymore. It is not a matter of us being mistrusting, but a matter or us being smarter, wiser, and ridding ourselves of negative things in our life. Thanks for the sweet comment. :)

  6. Discovering who to trust and who not to trust can be one of the hardest lessons in life.

  7. "If you want me to trust you, then simply be yourself. Be real, be honest, be caring, and be loving…that is all it takes to be my friend."

    I feel exactly that way. I suppose we've all been hurt--been taken advantage, mistreated, lied to, or betrayed. I have a good sense about people and phoniness usually screams out to me right away. I've learned through the years to walk away from people who say one thing and do another.

  8. Funnily enough we chose the same quote :) “To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

    A very good one!

  9. Isn't this the truth: Trust is all you really have in life. Excellent post.

  10. This is such a wonderful blog Mary!! I have run across all these different people before. It is cool how you have defined each group so the reader can easily identify them and then run like hell in the opposite direction!!


  11. Thanks everyone for the wonderful comments. :)I have had my share of trusting others at the work place. I have learned so much just sitting back and watching how people interact. Funny how all of these people seem to exist in almost every walk of life. I don't know about you, but I can spot them a mile away. I have learned to be a bit tougher in life and just simply say no to them. No, to their ways and no to their needs and wants. I love my life, trust my closest friends and have learned that some people are just not worth my time and energy. So, with that said...I have literally cleaned out all the bad from my life. Don't have any room anymore for those that seek to destroy and bring me down. Thanks again for the sweet comments. :)